Every dog owner needs to remember that his pet will always and everywhere try to take a higher status in the family and lead. Because it is an integral part of their natural need to occupy the highest position. Because the last one in the flock may just not have enough food, nor normal shelter, nor a female for breeding, etc. Therefore, instincts are inherent in dogs that push to be higher in order to survive and give birth to their offspring.
Stretches to the owner paws
Dogs understand and perceive leadership in their own way. And you can already notice it, just crossing the threshold of your house. The first sign of leadership that a dog thinks of itself may show up in its way of greeting you. If the dog rises and puts two paws on the person, this is the first sign of greeting as a leader. It is like a person reaching out to say hello to another person. Likewise, a dog stands with its front paws on a person to greet him. But, in this gesture, there is much more essence for the dog than it seems at first glance. She shows a desire to lead. "I want to be like you - tall and stand on two legs, be equal to you!»
nose to nose
Also, to say hello, dogs try to reach out to a person’s nose, as this is a characteristic gesture for dogs - to say hello nose to nose, to sniff. But, since a person, in relation to a dog, has a nose high enough, it stretches higher. What happens with this? The dog shows that she is also tall, trying. The man allows it. Randomly, he may even take a step back, move, and also stroke the dog, thereby contributing to the reinforcement of the dog's leadership sign. "I am so strong that I was able to move a person from their place, and he praised me for it! He obeys me!» The dog gains confidence that he is allowed to do this and will continue to fight for leadership in the future, trying stronger ways.
The same gestures in a dog can be seen during a walk when he meets another dog. They start throwing their paws at each other, pushing, wallowing, biting each other. And it looks like a fun game from the outside. In fact, they began to compete - which of them is more important. As a result, after a few minutes it will be possible to notice how the dog has become more active in the game, and the second one noticeably loses to the first one.
If a person, during a greeting, picks up a dog that jumps on him for joy, this is a big mistake and a strong reinforcement of the dog's aspirations to be in the lead. But, you can’t ignore the dog either. Be sure to pay attention to the dog. You need to find the right way to greet the dog, so as not to support and reinforce his imaginary leadership.
How to say hello to a dog
We love to show each other signs of attention and respect, to say hello, to wish good morning. The dog also needs to take a few seconds of your attention and say hello to it. Often the problem with the very active behavior of the dog during the meeting is that the person thinks that it is not necessary to greet the dog. He goes to the fridge in the morning and the dog suddenly starts jumping on him. She jumps not because she wants to eat, but precisely because she wants to say hello, she wants attention to herself, at least elementary. Tell her "hi". And she will fall behind, stop jumping. You need to understand that with a dog that lives with you, you need to communicate psychologically on an equal footing.
If the dog meets you very emotionally, your friends are on the doorstep. This suggests that initially you taught her to show this behavior and strongly reinforced. You should not take her in your arms for joy, hug, kiss, sausage, turn over "i love you, jump on me, lick me". It is by this behavior that you teach the dog to behave the same way with you. As a result, she will demand to greet her in the same way, squeak, bark. Because she'll get used to the attention. And this activity is nothing but signs of dominance.
Barking at the owner is a requirement! If a dog barks at its owner, this is also a strong sign of dominance. We are talking about yapping, and not rude barking (drives away, protects). Her yapping, thin "woof" is: "Give me something to eat! Why don't you let me out? I want a toy! Why don't you let me? Come obey me!”
You should initially accustom her to the minimum manifestation of emotions during the greeting. For your part, it will be enough to stroke the dog, hug, scratch behind the ear. Excessive manifestation of emotions - this will be the next problem: demand, petition, etc.
After all, situations in life can be different, and you should not accustom your dog to the fact that you can give him so much attention during a greeting. After all, it may happen that you come home from work tired, sad, deprive the dog of attention, and she will suffer very much from this. Better let her be accustomed to a minimum of your attention and then you will have a margin for wider manifestations of emotions and love.
To retrain the dog, stepping over the threshold, first of all, calm it down, sit it on the floor, hold it, say hello to it calmly. Do this every time, and in the end, the dog will greet you calmly and stop pressing you with his signs of leadership from the doorway.
author - Konstantin Markin
(animal psychologist, animal trainer)